Narcissists Don’t Just Exist at Home
They are not just at home, in the family and among your friends. They also lurk at your work to keep you off balance and to do their own work too. Support from these Behavioural Narcissists (BN) is a one-way street; you work, they bathe in glory. Remember, it could be up to forty per cent of the adult population who tend to be narcissistic to some degree.
Practical Guidance, Not Remote Therapy
They are as challenging to deal with as the rest: those at home, in the family, or among friends. But I have some tips on what to do and how to do it. A practical opinion with some guidance if you choose to run with some of my ideas. Remember, this is not remote therapy, just my opinion on these topics based on my experience as a psychotherapist.
Why You Should Never Argue With a BN
I have commented before: never argue with a BN; they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience. But the thing is that at work it is often impossible to avoid interaction, so I usually advocate the opposite of trying to deflect and avoid them: do not argue, but instead be excessively polite, over-the-top courteous, and then a bit more polite on top of that. This is actually easier in the work environment than in the family… They will know what you are doing, but can say nothing in return; it would appear aggressive and make them look like the bully they really are. The outward appearance is that you are being extremely cultured and polite, and there is nothing anyone can do or say without appearing to be bullying you.
Understanding Toxic Work Culture
This comes with a few strings attached, but you already have space to make your working life easier. Toxic work culture shows up as a constant negative, blame, fear, favouritism, gossip, bullying, or burnout being treated as normal. You cannot fix everything alone, but you can protect yourself and create options.
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