Category: Support Articles

So here we are at part 3… We have been talking about how not to ignore gut instinct.  But that is something the abused or people pleaser has forgotten to listen to. In this final part of this article, I am going to suggest some practical ways to do that.  You may think this is…

In part one, I laid out some ideas on the three mind theory. I tried not to pull punches, and I may have appeared to be blaming you for your own abuse. This was/is not my intention. My intention was to be clear about the situation you may have found yourself in and to guide…

I believe in the three mind theory. While I admire Freud and his ideas on the unconscious and the three-part personality, this theory is not what I’m focusing on here. Instead, I mean that we have a heart, a brain, and a gut, each playing a role in our beliefs and behaviour. There is a…

Part 2 To begin with the bad news…. you usually cannot change a narcissistic boss.  But the good news is that you can adjust how you respond, and this will make life so much easier for you. As you do this, they will begin to respect the. Changes and be better for you.  More polite,…

Love bombing is not effective because people are weak or foolish. It works because we crave connection and validation. You do not have to be lonely to become a victim of love bombing. It floods your brain with endorphins, which are feel-good chemicals. Attraction, constant messages, physical affection, and future fantasies trigger dopamine and oxytocin. …

In part one of this article, I outlined the term – Love Bombing – In this second part, I look more at cause and effect more closely. Let me highlight the phases of manipulation and control.  Of course, every Behavioural Narcissist (BN) is a unique individual, but there are some traits and personality distinctions that,…

Part 1 Many people have difficult bosses. But there is a difference between a tough manager and a narcissistic one. Understanding that difference can help you protect yourself.  We should make a distinction between a boss and a manager.  Managers are appointed from above so they have a level of favouritism from a boss and…